Dear Editor'

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LETTERS

Ed. Note: The following is an exchange of letters I thought might be of interest to TVia readers.

The first letter Rita sent me and my reply to it are no longer in existance, but what follows is her response to my counselling letter and my reply to her reply.

Dear Virginia,

Much has happened since your kind but "gutsy" memo reached me, and incidently I thank you for being frank and blunt, even though I don't necessarily agree with everything you say. However, to quickly recap - yes! I have given up all ideas of surgery; yes! - I have (I believe) come a long way in getting rid of "poor little frustrated me" concept and it is due to my wife (God bless her!).

We did get your book on the TV and his wife; we read and re-read it many times, separately and together. Edith made a tremendous ef- fort to "break-through" and she asked that she and I go away to a cot- tage, by ourselves, and share my experience we spent five days together, sitting, talking, listening to music in front of the fire, going for long walks (some of which involved meeting strangers "head-on,” passing pleasantries, etc.). The first day, we opened ourselves to each other as Roy and Edith; for the second, third and fourth days, as Rita and Edith; the last day as Roy and Edith evaluating. What a heart- searching experience - what a revelation -- what an exquisite joy for me! and what a wonderful understanding wife I have! She told me that several times she was so at ease with Rita that she forgot her negative feelings and accepted her companion as a warm, loving

woman.

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